You Do Not Want to Suffer
Nobody ever wants to suffer, and yet, we continue to do so. Frequently, due to no apparent fault of our own. Oh, how much we hate listening to someone eagerly admonishing us that suffering is self-inflicted! When I am miserable and in pain, that is the last thing I want to hear. For someone who is not ready to hear this, it’s quite maddening. And when one is ready to hear it, then the advice is no longer relevant, now is it?
So, what can one do about it?
Start with small steps. Next time someone provokes you – don’t jump into the anger yet. Wait a bit and stay calm. Not because it is the high road or the noble and spiritual thing to do. Wait out of curiosity – see what happens if there is a provoking person or situation and you refuse to succumb to the provocation. Does the situation get worse? Or better? Does it resolve itself? But above all, pay attention to how you feel. Which one is more painful – to be in a state of anger or to let things slide and disengage? If anger is not your thing, then experiment with another emotion that causes you distress or suffering.
Be the scientist in your life story! As far as New Year’s resolutions go – this is as good as any!